There have been and will be many instances where we land up in a predicament, which tests our presence of mind, or just merely common sense. The answers to some of the questions raised during the tough times cannot be derived by us, but our reaction to these situations is completely in our control. This is when our choices play a pivotal role in determining the repercussions of our [re]actions.
If seen on a broad scale, everything that happens in the world is governed by reasoning, logic, necessity and choice. Necessity leads one to make choices from the available options. The chair I am sitting on was made because someone chose to enhance his/her comfort level; the computer I am using has become what I see it to be because someone wanted it to be seen this way; the bike I use is built this way because someone chose to commute faster; the fate of a democracy is chosen by its people; and finally we are what we are because we chose to be so, voluntarily or involuntarily.
We are responsible for what we are, what we become and also for what we don’t.
The choices we make may not always be right. Many of them are mostly intuitive. And unless the problem is of a significant magnitude, we don’t think much before we make a choice. The wrong choices may be made voluntarily with selfish motives by a narcissist. But he too has made a choice, and will have to face its consequences.
Some people believe in destiny and some don’t. Whatever is meant to happen, will happen and happens for the good. So why worry about something that’s yet to happen? This has both a negative and a positive connotation.
Pessimists would think “It’s inevitable anyway, What difference can I make?” and an optimist sees it as “Whatever the end result is, let me put in my best efforts”. The pessimist sees fate to decide the be all and end all of things. But the optimist makes the choice of believing in himself and maximizing his efforts. If anything is pursued with your heart in the right place, and the maximum efforts are put in that direction; somewhere, somehow you get to know that whatever is being sought can be achieved. When faced with a problem, we can choose to get all worked up about it, or we can remain calm and think of a solution. The latter works best.
I’ll like to end by citing this famous quote “Future is not what we wait for, it’s what we make”. Instead of playing the blame game, if responsibility is taken for our actions and our choices are well made, tackling a untoward situation shouldn’t be all that difficult..