Sometimes people we like the most, and confide the maximum in, do things that we do not like or approve of, ultimately hurting us in the process. We react in a seemingly inappropriate manner, kindling reactions well undeserved and thereby further intensifying the problem.
What’s the reason? I can’t say for sure. Any of the parties involved may have erred. Or it may simply be emotions like jealousy, neglect, apathy, indifference, anger, guilt, shame.. I wont term these to be negative, it happens to all of us; either at the receiving end or even worse, unknowingly doing it to someone else. It can also arise from expectations, small things that you expect from people around, and they don’t even treat you to that basic courtesy. Sometimes, you just feel like cutting off all contact with the person [irrespective of who the erring party is], and saying [as the famous dialogue from ‘Gone with the wind’ goes] “Frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn”..! and also seeking vengeance.. GIVING him a taste of his own medicine. But this, when done doesn’t actually make you any different from the person who caused you the problem. So why bother doing that? Instead remaining your same good self can atleast put you way above that person. Control of emotions can go a long way in keeping healthy relationships. This is when detachment comes in.. Often, it’s time to detach when detachment appears to be the least likely, or possible, thing to do.
And hypocrisy.. Oh My God..! Hypocrisy rules the world today.. there is always a bunch of people around you who say something [so that you don’t do it] and actually DO something else [which you would have done otherwise, hadn’t they intervened]. Selfish losers..! [if I may borrow the term..!] there is always someone around you who seeks the slightest of opportunities to pull you down. People take you for granted most of the times when you are being nice to them. Sometimes, we find the need to be detached from some of the events happening around, or from the people around, to restore normalcy and balance back into our lives..
Be the same as you already are. Retain your Goodness Quotient. Always change your attitudes for the better. Don’t trust everyone you meet, not everyone is as good as you are..! And finally, remain detached from the people around, not all of them are as good as you think they actually are….